Thanks Tijana for your thoughtful reply. I agree with you about pretty much everything you said.
There’s a fine line between being confident and being arrogant (I wrote a little about this here).
“Sex should and can be about two (or more) people feeling each other and responding to each other’s momentary sensory needs. Instinctively, and not by training. Also being able to enjoy fully and without shame the pleasure you are receiving.” — Yes yes yes! Skills alone are only technical, as you mentioned. I reckon that when you are confident to start with, your path to a sex life that is truly satisfying (not only on the physical level, but also on the emotional one) is inevitable.
And yes — you can, like I have — develop confidence as a byproduct of an emotionally satisfying sex life.
Again, your comment is spot on and I thank you for it Tijana.