Thanks so much for sharing your experience Erica Louise Shugart. It also adds an important aspect which I omitted from the article, which is that the dominant desire pattern (responsive OR spontaneous) can shift and change. Sometimes one is dominant and other times the other can be dominant.

Many people experience a more spontaneous desire at the onset of their relationship, and then it changes to a more responsive desire as the relationship becomes more established.

It’s interesting to see that in some cases, like yours, it shifts between one relationship to another.