Thanks for your comment Gary, I agree with pretty much everything you wrote. One of the biggest issues that a lot of women face while having sex is that they do not know what they want. We have been programmed to not really think about sex because it’s not suitable for a fine lady to be occupied with such thoughts. And when we get to actually have sex, a lot of us have no idea what we want. Which means we can not guide our partner.
My most recent article talks a little about this. How we should be comfortable with exploring each other’s bodies instead of pretend to know what we are doing.
As a general rule, I would say that when you see sex as an exploration and as an opportunity to enjoy the erotic pleasures of intimacy, both you and your partner will benefit. It is much healthier than approaching sex as a mean to achieve an orgasm.