I couldn’t agree with you more on this one, Steven Liszewski.
Many women prefer hard-fast sex while their man wants to take things slowly.
Most of us (men and women) have been conditioned to enjoy only fast sex and it’s difficult to try something that looks so counter-intuitive. What’s worse is that for many women, the sensations in the vagina are becoming more and more numbed as a result of practicing fast, friction-based sex. And then when they do try slow sex they feel nothing in their vagina at all.
Another thing that deters people from slow sex is that both physical pain and some raw, unpleasurable emotions can surface and make the sex session completely different from what we think and expect sex to be.
So we revert back to what we know and don’t continue with the slow exploration. Which is a shame because it does have the potential to bring us to amazing heights, both of pleasure but also of connection as a couple.
But at the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter what I (or anyone else to that matter) thinks or believes. You and your wife need to practice sex in a way that makes you both feel satisfied and connected, whatever that might look like for you.